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Sunday, May 27, 2012

Spurring on Fathers - What Pediatricians Can Do

Several of my recent posts have addressed the problem of absent fathers, the consequences of absent fathers, and the benefits of involved fathers. Today we turn our attention to what my profession can do to encourage fathers to be active in the lives of their children.

The Role of the Pediatrician

It is certainly true that more moms than dads bring their kids to the pediatrician’s office. Pediatricians should remember that encouraging the involvement of the father (even if he does not have custody) will promote the child’s well-being. Pediatricians should encourage fathers to engage and have direct involvement and interaction with their children as often as possible. Fathers should be accessible, available to their children even when not directly interacting (like what I am doing as I write this post). Fathers should also be encouraged to be responsible, providing for the physical care and welfare of their children.

Not Just a Substitute Mother

Pediatricians should convey to fathers that they play a different role than mothers. They interact in different ways than mothers. Fathers are more likely to engage in play with children and this play is more likely to be physical and stimulating. Fathers influence the child’s gender role development more strongly than mothers. They also increase the likelihood of academic success.

Child Support

Pediatricians should encourage noncustodial fathers to provide child support. The child’s cognitive development, academic achievement, and behavior are all improved when fathers provide child support. The provision of child support by the father provides greater positive outcomes than equivalent income derived from other sources.

Visitation

Pediatricians can also encourage mothers to increase fathers’ access to their children.  The former spouse often poses the greatest obstacle to increased father involvement.  Forty percent of mothers reported they had interfered with the non-custodial father’s visitation on at least one occasion to punish the ex-spouse.  One study found that 77% of non-custodial fathers are not able to visit their children as ordered by the court, as a result of “visitation interference” perpetuated by the custodial parent (a more frequent problem than failure to pay child support).

Additional Advice for Pediatricians from the American Academy of Pediatrics

From Pediatrics,vol 113, number 5, May 2004 “Fathers and Pediatricians: Enhancing Men’s Roles in the Care and Development of Their Children”

Ø  Offer flexible/extended office hours to accommodate working parents and encourage their attendance
Ø  Actively encourage fathers to come in for at least one visit in the first 2 months of life, and more if possible
Ø  Welcome dads and express appreciation for their attendance
Ø  Speak directly to the father and solicit his input and opinions
Ø  Politely explore the relationship between mom and dad
Ø  Discuss the father’s opinions about his role as a father
Ø  Recognize that mothers and fathers may not always agree on how to best raise their children
l  Consider mediating discussions about these differences, but attempt to avoid siding with one parent or the other
Ø  Be sensitive to and informed about diverse cultural and ethnic values and customs regarding the role of the father
Ø  Take a “parenting history” to encourage parents to understand their own behaviors by understanding how they themselves were parented
Ø  Explore the quality of relationships between each parent and their children, as well as each other
Ø  Empower, engage and inform fathers of the importance of their involvement
l  Remind the family that dads are not just workers or breadwinners
l  Give fathers responsibilities for caring for and making decisions regarding the child
l  Encourage fathers to assume at least some child care responsibilities
l  Encourage mothers to let the father be involved and learn from his own mistakes
l  Early time alone with the child allows dad to gain confidence and develop his own style while letting mom have some time to herself
l  Reinforce dad’s support of mom
          Explore ways the father can help decrease maternal stress
          Discuss the normal stressors that the family will experience (decreased sleep and energy, less time alone as a couple, less individual free time, changes in intimacy and the sexual relationship, etc.)
          Look for signs of maternal depression and be able to offer resources for help
          Explore marital stress and discuss the parent’s relationship
          Educate fathers about breastfeeding and how they can support the mothers’ nursing
          Encourage dad to protect some time for mom to be alone
          Encourage dad to take a paternal education class

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